Resources

Essential PDA Reading

The books that informed this app - and transformed our understanding

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PDA Question was trained on the wisdom in these books. Each one offers unique insights into understanding and supporting PDA children. We've included affiliate links - if you purchase through them, we earn a small commission at no cost to you, which helps us maintain and improve the app.

The Educator's Experience of PDA

Author: Laura Kerbey

Why it matters:
The most comprehensive guide for understanding PDA in educational settings. Essential reading for teachers, but also invaluable for parents navigating school accommodations and IEP meetings.

You'll learn:

  • Why traditional classroom management backfires with PDA students
  • Practical strategies for reducing demands in academic settings
  • How to advocate for low-demand school environments
  • What effective PDA accommodations actually look like

PDA in the Therapy Room

Author: Rebecca Loveridge

Why it matters:
Written by a therapist with deep PDA expertise, this book revolutionizes how professionals approach therapeutic work with PDA children - and helps parents understand what effective therapy should look like.

You'll learn:

  • Why compliance-based therapy damages PDA children
  • How to adapt therapeutic goals to honor autonomy
  • The role of relationship and felt safety in progress
  • What to look for (and avoid) in PDA-informed therapists

Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in Children

Authors: Ruth Fidler & Phil Christie

Why it matters:
The foundational text on PDA, written by the clinicians who pioneered its recognition. Comprehensive, research-based, and deeply compassionate.

You'll learn:

  • The neurological basis of demand avoidance
  • How PDA differs from other autism presentations
  • Assessment and diagnostic considerations
  • Evidence-based intervention approaches

The Family Experience of PDA

Editors: Eliza Fricker & Kathryn Skelton (illustrated by Ruth Burrows)

Why it matters:
Real stories from real PDA families. The validation, recognition, and "you're not alone" you desperately need - told by parents who truly understand.

You'll learn:

  • What daily life actually looks like in PDA families
  • Strategies that worked (and didn't work) for other parents
  • How siblings experience having a PDA brother or sister
  • That your struggles are real, valid, and shared

Brain-Body Parenting

Author: Dr. Mona Delahooke

Why it matters:
Not PDA-specific, but essential for understanding the nervous system science underlying the low-demand approach. Transforms how you see all challenging behavior.

You'll learn:

  • How the autonomic nervous system drives behavior
  • Why behavioral strategies often backfire
  • The difference between "won't" and "can't"
  • How to respond to regulation needs, not just behavior

The Explosive Child

Author: Dr. Ross Greene

Why it matters:
Introduces Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS), a framework that aligns beautifully with low-demand PDA approaches. Practical strategies for reducing conflict and building skills.

You'll learn:

  • "Kids do well if they can" as a foundational principle
  • How to identify lagging skills vs. willful behavior
  • Collaborative approaches that honor autonomy
  • Practical scripts for problem-solving together

Low Demand Parenting

Author: Amanda Diekman

Why it matters:
The practical manual for implementing low-demand approaches in everyday life. Written by an autistic parent of PDA children who intimately understands both sides.

You'll learn:

  • How to systematically reduce demands in your home
  • Why "dropping the rope" isn't giving up - it's strategic
  • Concrete examples of demand reduction across daily routines
  • How to sustain low-demand parenting without burning out

Final Note

These books formed the foundation of PDA Question's training. Reading them will deepen your understanding and give you the broader context behind the app's guidance.